So, Mother’s Day is upon us again and I’ve decided to post my column from last year because, well basically nothing has changed.
If I had my way it would be banned and if you’re a mum with young children then you will probably, although secretly and guiltily, agree with me. This year I’ve been quizzing mums to find out what we really think of our Special Day. Yes, we love the handmade cards and the flowers but here are five little things that we are not so keen on:
1 No mother wants to be woken at 6.30 am by a small child holding a dripping bowl of cornflakes over her head. If we eat them we feel sick. If we don’t, we feel sick. Yes, that’s sick with the GUILT of watching our child’s lip tremble at the rejection of such a beautiful and thoughtful act.
2 It is just not funny to go to church and hear our children read out thank you prayers such as,
Dear God, please bless our mums for cooking, cleaning, etc. ”
This is merely a list of things we have to do before the end of the day and because it’s our Special Day we have to do them all when the children have gone to bed. Otherwise the children will be upset that we are not making our Special Day special. And once again we will feel GUILTY. The alternative is staying up extra late on Mother’s Day eve to wash and iron the school uniforms, clean the shoes, sort the school bags. This ensures we are knackered and grumpy on our Special Day, snap at our children and feel GUILTY.
3 Mother’s Day cards or prayers which thank us for being patient when our children are naughty also make us feel GUILTY. We are not always patient. Show me a mum who remains patient when their child is shaving the cat and I’ll show you a mother on diazepam. We may be patient 99% of the time but it will be our 1% failing which we remember on Mother’s Day.
4 We do not want to watch our children perform in any kind of talent showcase on Mother’s Day. While I am delighted that my daughter chooses to play violin in an orchestra rather than playing second fiddle to the local crackdealer I still do not want to spend four hours grinding my teeth and getting a numb bum while waiting for her to play her five minute contribution. Wishing myself elsewhere – in a spa or in bed with a box of chocolates – makes me feel very GUILTY.
5 Visiting graves in the freezing cold/rain/snow is never pleasant. I miss my mum and although I would like to put a bunch of daffs on her grave for Mothering Sunday I would actually prefer not to do it on my Special Day. I know the fact that she’s dead means she is hardly likely to care if I leave it to the Monday but not doing it on the Sunday,yes you’ve guessed it, makes me feel GUILTY.
So there you have it. That was my column for Mother’s Day last year. This year will be different. This year the bloody clocks change so I will have one hour less in bed when I wake on Mothering Sunday. Just lovely.
totally agree, Mother’s Day is a wash out for me! I woke this morning in my son’s bed after being beckoned there at 4am to share a single bed with a star fish! Then i got up, made the beds, kids breakfasts, set the dishwasher away, swept the floors, cleaned the benches and tidied up, got the kids dressed and went to church! Then we went shopping, where my husband disappeared to buy my present (last minute) leaving me to shop with our 5 children (aged 3-13) whlst geting my mum’s present which is only last minute because I have spent the last 2 days attending my friends funeral on the other side of the country! We came home where I supervised the kids getting changed, unpacked the shopping, made everyone’s lunch (except my own because I didn’t have time to eat) filled in my mums cards, gave her the presents etc then received my own presents ( a cd, a box of chocolates I don’t like and another that I do) so much thought went into them that the kids gave me them in a carrier bag! I then made my own lunch and was interrupted while eating it to clean up my toilet training son’s ‘accident’. My children are now in various parts of the house making mess and noise while my husband has a nap in the chair!!! Mother’s Day???! Colossal waste of time!! Sorry for being agrump but it never changes, it’s just another day!
That shouldn’t have made me laugh but it did. It’s just so typical of what it’s really like. Perfect Mother’s Day would be someone taking the kids away so I could have a bit of peace, read a book, eat what I want and drink Champagne without worrying that I had to taxi someone around later in the day.